Thursday, December 22, 2011

Christmastime is here






This year, both girls are finally old enough to get into the Christmas spirit.  Every morning a mad dash ensues to check for treats inside their Advent calendar and to see what mischief the Nisse (Danish elves) have been up to during  the night.  Happiness.  Cheer.  A week's vacation.

 My house is decorated and I have baked enough cookies for a hungry army of family members.  It is officially Christmas time.

The Nisse are very naughty and have gotten into all kind of trouble. Every morning they can be found somewhere different in the house.

The girls scold them for their bad behavior, which is adorable.  Their enthusiasm for Christmas magic is contagious.

At the start of the Advent season, the Nisse brought a Playmobil Weihnachtsmarkt, which has been a family favorite.  Don't tell anyone, But I quite enjoy putting the market to rights after the girls have gone to bed.






 Miss Bee has become quite the baking expert, and has gone from making messes in the kitchen to becoming an amazing baker in her own right. The gingerbread cake, for the occasion of Cheek's second birthday, was my own special masterpiece. 

 


If they're not in the kitchen helping me, you can find the girls curled up in their book nook, which I have managed to fill with an embarrassing amount of Christmas books.  We are reading a nightly advent story, which has become a yearly tradition, as well as a book of special Advent prayers.  
Both girls are on Santa alert, and on their very best behavior, with the exception of Cheeks shouting, "NO, BABY JESUS" during church earlier this month.  I'm surprised lightning bolts didn't fly down from the ceiling after that particular outburst.



We're doing our best to be good though, and would like to wish you and yours all the happiness in the world, a wonderful 2012, but especially a
Very Merry Christmas!









Sunday, November 13, 2011

Oh my oven!

The girls helped me make gingerbread babies tonight, and they lavished their cookies with every possible candy decoration.

While we waited for dear husband to finish up dinner, we read Jan Brett's "Gingerbread Friends" and "Gingerbread Babies."  Sitting there on the couch, with my daughters, in a flour covered apron, was the highlight of my weekend.   Because this recipe makes so many cookies, I also cut out a whole host of autumn gingerbread shapes: leaves, squirrels, acorns, apples, and turkeys.


I used these cookie cutters to use up the scraps, and have a container full of tiny cut out bears (for a teddy bear picnic perhaps) and another with the noah's ark menagerie (perfect for a quiet Sunday afternoon) tucked away in the freezer.

I really think there are two secrets to perfect gingerbread--black pepper, although I only used 1/2 t. in this batch, and refrigerating the cut out cookies before baking.  A good 15 minutes in the fridge means that the cookies keep their shape in the oven, and they'll come out looking Martha Stewart perfect.


From tonight's dinner: want to know how to make the world's best bechamel sauce?  It's not what you might think...




Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Double rainbow

Favorite pic from my trip to NZ right here:




Friday, October 7, 2011

R.O.T.

I have been sitting here, eating ice cream, musing over this particular post, trying to focus on a good opening sentence. And while I'm not quite sure how to start, I know (and by this I mean the kind of knowing that you know with all your heart) exactly what I want to say.

Dear Husband had to work late tonight and so Cheeks and I commuted home together. We were lucky enough to get a seat on the train, and passed the time reading books and drawing pictures on my iPad. As we exited the station I saw my father standing there at the entrance waiting for us. I hadn't told him what time we were leaving work but he had headed down to the station anyway to meet us. As we walked home together, I got to thinking about the many journeys my father and I have taken together. There is a special bond between this father and this daughter.

When I was very small, Dad was my nightly bedtime story and ride through the "spooky spooky jungle" (really just the hallway) on the way to bed. We traveled greater distances still, as we roamed the wild prairies and survived the long winter in Laura Ingalls Wilder's "Little House" series. I would beg for just one more chapter, and most nights he would oblige.

One time, Dad traveled on Santa's sleigh. The Christmas when I was nine, Dad was sent to the North Pole to assemble a three story, Victorian, approximately 7,000 piece dollhouse kit. He managed to build it and put it under the tree with a bow just in time for Christmas morning. And, like everything he has ever built, it was perfect.

When I was in high school, he was a willing chauffeur, driving me to countless activities. And when I was troubled with school or friends or some other adolescent silliness, he would put the leash on our family dog and invite me for a long walk through the park near our house.

When I was in college, he logged hundreds of miles on the family station wagon, driving me home for long weekends, or coming down just for the day, so he and my mother could take me out for a grilled cheese sandwich at the Biltmore restaurant.

And at my wedding, he drove me to the church in his blue pickup truck. He put down an aisle of drop cloths from the house to the truck, so that I wouldn't get my dress wet in the snow. I was proud to have him walk me down the aisle, but I cherish the memory of driving with him to the church.

When Dear Husband and I moved to Guatemala City, I remember showing Dad that small sliver of a country on a map, and imagining myself transported hundreds of miles away from home. Dad visited us there and braved the jungles of Tikal and Guatemalan air transport (ever flown on a propeller plane, the reeeally loud kind?). He traveled farther still, thousands of airline miles to visit us in Eastern Europe.

And now we are all back together in the United States. And I am a mother with two girls who adore their grandfather and I carry my kids to bed and sing "spooky jungle." I have more gray hairs than I would care to admit. My little house is about a mile away from the house I grew up in, the house my father built. The distance between us is short.

I love you, Dad.

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Blog crush

Every once in a while, I start to think I have a pretty good little blogging thing going. And then, I go read sites like this one and I am completely blown away.

Ann Voskamp is one of those rare, rare talents. She's the kind of writer who can share her stories and make you cry, laugh, and feel stronger in your faith, all in one post. An amazing woman.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

At home

It has been really nice to take a couple days off this week. For once, I'm not staying home because of a sick child, half trying to manage pressing work concerns while dealing with fever or flu.

It's a double edged sword for me, though: Staying home makes me realize just how much needs to be done around the house. Men everywhere may laugh, but home keeping (don't even mention child rearing or I'll cry) is a full time job.

Never mind the cooking and general cleaning--these past few days have been a chance to catch up on all the chores that have been languishing--

I beat back the laundry pile, rotated the girls' wardrobes so they have weather appropriate clothing to wear to school, and ordered fall/winter clothes for Miss Bee because she evidently grew about three feet this year! (I finally broke down and bought poor Cheeks McGoo a sweater so she would have something that wasn't a hand me down from her older sister.)

Sorted through endless paper: artwork, advertisements, statements , magazines, newspapers--I think I could heat my home for the winter on junk mail alone.

Swapping out Miss Bee's book stand with fall books and fall animals. (Okay, not really a serious chore but she gets so excited when I put out her "new" books.)

Having the upstairs carpets professionally cleaned. Because they were filthy.

Having the furnace serviced. (The man who came today ominously told me it was time to have the furnace replaced. Dear husband will be so excited because he loves shopping for that sort of things.)

Baking bread. It's not really a chore, but something that if I could stay home full time--I would do it every day. Cheeks and Bee helped me make bread yesterday and despite a few fraught moments, it was largely a success.

Do I really have to go back to the office tomorrow?

Sunday, September 18, 2011

I know it sounds like a cliche but

it really is possible to have too much fun. Poor Ms. Cheeks proved that last night after a wonderful day at the water park, shopping in the afternoon, and dinner at a fantastic Italian restaurant. (As in, the food was so good I was planning on marrying my ravioli halfway through dinner.) Dear husband and I were eating and encouraging Cheeks to eat her spaghetti, which she adamantly refused to do.

Clearly we were completely oblivous to the issue at hand because upon arriving back to our hotel, Cheeks threw up everywhere. (And why, oh why, do my kids always throw up on me and not my husband?)

But on the whole, despite having a sick little person, I had a fantastic weekend. It had been too long since our little family had an adventure together, and Great Wolf Lodge was just the right speed for the girls.

Thursday, September 15, 2011

quelle horreur

So, my flight from New Zealand to Los Angeles was 12 hours, not that I noticed. I boarded the plane, watched a short movie, ate a very unmemorable dinner, folded my seat into a flat bed (oh the heaven that are business class seats) and promptly passed out for nine or so hours.
I slept through dessert. The duty free cart did not wake me up. I missed the sunrise. I slept through breakfast. I finally woke up about an hour before landing. It's a good thing I didn't sleep all the way to the gate.

When I finally woke up, I looked and felt a complete wreck. No problem, though, I am a frequent traveler and prepared for these contingencies. I went to the airplane bathroom, washed my face, brushed my teeth, and here is the key piece, people, changed my clothes.

I went back to my seat, feeling like a completely new person and congratulating myself for really pulling it together. I was busily organizing my luggage for landing when one of the flight attendants sidled up alongside. He asked, "Honey, did you do a complete change just now?"

Wide-eyed I looked at him and gasped out a "yes..."

He nodded seriously in reply and mock whispered, "Then I think you left something behind..."

I whipped my head around for the offending article of clothing. He just shook his head and handed me my unmentionables wrapped in a paper napkin.

The horrible question, that will forever remain unanswered, is where exactly did I drop them?

I didn't dare ask for breakfast after that.

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Jumping the rainbow

Me and this blog, yeah, we almost broke up. But I think I finally might be able to start writing again.

You might have guessed that August was rough. My poor dear husband was stuck single parenting for weeks while I begged for "just one more hour at work, please."

And then to top it off, at the very height of the madness, I had to take a business trip for eight days. To New Zealand. I love New Zealand! But-- it's a really, really, reeeeally, long way away from here.

I owe my husband big time. And my mother. And my father. And my in-laws. Family is amazing. Family steps in and takes the wheel when you're too tired to drive.

It wasn't all bad though. On my very last day in New Zealand I spent the afternoon with friends. We went to a local grocery store and picked up fresh bread, hot roast chicken, and salad. We ate outside, savoring the early spring sunshine. (Because in New Zealand, the seasons are reversed, crazy, right?) Afterward we drove down to a little beach and hiked up one of the many bluffs that surround Auckland harbor. And as we rounded the bend a rainbow pierced the sky, as if on cue.

I arrived home just after midnight on Monday evening to a quiet, sleeping, house. The crickets were chirping, the fan was humming, and dog was snoring and I slipped back into the fold unnoticed. The next morning, when the girls piled into bed and smothered me with kisses and hugs it was like Christmas and my birthday all folded into one.

It is so good to be home.

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

When the going gets tough

the tough bake pie. Really good pie. Lemon meringue pie. With lemons. And meringue.



And then, life gets a whole lot better.

The end.

Saturday, July 23, 2011

keep the old

One of the harder parts of our peripatetic lifestyle is the making and losing of many friends.

During the first year we lived in Latvia we had a nice group of good friends our age. None of us had kids and thus I have fond memories of long afternoons spent in the Irish pub in Riga. It was one of the few places in the city where you could get onion rings, and, oddly enough, they made great chimichangas. We would eat and drink and laugh and do all the things that young, childless people do.

After a year, these friends went on to other postings and we lost touch. I'm terrible at keeping in touch, even with my family. I don't write many letters or emails. I don't send cards for birthdays. I probably should, but between my two little darlings, working full time, and keeping the house reasonably decent I have to let a lot of things slip.

However, due to a series of fortunate events, we were able to have a mini Riga reunion this morning. One friend, who lives in Serbia, is spending the week in the U.S. for training. The other friend drove up from Norfolk. It has been four years since I have seen them. Four years, people, since we lived in Latvia. Four years since I have seen these friends of mine. It feels like four minutes ago.

We feasted on egg and pepper strata, banana muffins, and cantaloupe. Instead of watching cricket on the tvs at the pub, we watched Miss Cheeks and Miss Bee play wildly. (Oh do they love to show off for guests.) And then we talked about our home renovation projects. We parted with no false promises of renewed friendship. But I do sincerely hope that it will be less than four years before I see these wonderful ladies again.

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Frosty


Oh my goodness. This week has been hot, even by Washington, D.C. in the summer standards.
Poor Frosty would last about five minutes before he turned into a puddle.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Why I love summer

Pizza topped with garden-basil.
Tomatoes ripening on the vine.
Watching Cheeks ride her trike.
Buying fresh corn for supper.
Pretty flowers in hanging baskets.
Miss Bee longing for the pool.

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Still here--

Just taking a moment to peek at my very neglected blog. I have no particularly good excuse or explanation for vanishing, I'm-a just a-very tired these days.

There are months when I think I have it all together, and family, work, and life seem to harmonize pretty well.

And then there are months where I feel like I am banging all the piano keys at once. Life in discord. An exquisite cacophony.

I read status updates enviously as my friends go off on vacation, or revel in that sweet space between job assignments. In the morning, I stare, sad-eyed at the carefree tourists navigating downtown D.C.--toting water bottles and metro maps.

However, the ballerinas are the worst of all. Every morning on my way to the office I pass a group of 10-15 teenage ballerinas, clustered at a bus stop, heading off to rehearsals. They wear sweaters over their leotards (in this Washington D.C. humidity)! They are languid; I am rushing. I try to walk gracefully past, swishing by in my wool suit. Answering emails all day doesn't really compare to Giselle and pas de deux though.

There are a few quiet corners in my crazy life-- though, like this past Saturday morning when both girls inexplicably slept past 7 am and I reveled in a few extra hours of sleep--and when I took fat Max running and he actually made it all the way home with me (never mind that part when he lay down in the grass and refused to get up for a good ten minutes)--and when the kiddies were giggling and being cute at the grocery store and then there was NO LINE at checkout. There's good stuff in there, too. I just gotta hold on tight to those little things for a while.

Monday, June 20, 2011

Father's Day

I should have written this post yesterday, but I was too busy orchestrating a happy father's day for my very dear and very deserving husband.

In the morning, Miss Bee was so excited to help prepare coffee and breakfast in bed for her father. After a round of Sesame street, breakfast for the rest of the family, quick jogs through the neighborhood, we all headed off to church.

By that time we arrived at church, Ms. Cheeks was feeling her fiesty side, which meant for an eventful service. In the span of an hour she did the following: demanded to be held upside down, and yes it is possible for a barely verbal child to demand that; ran wildly toward the font of holy water, probably for a swim; made strange noises during the songs, the kind where you take your pointer finger and flick it across your lips, which caused the entire row in front of us to turn around and laugh; and raised such a ruckus that she had to be carried out to the narthex on not one but four separate occasions.

At the end of the mass, the priest asked all the fathers to stand for a special blessing. Dear Husband was not among the honored group, as he was outside wrangling Ms. Cheeks.

We were all exhausted after church and fed the kiddies lunch and they all went to nap. Later on we gardened, and barbequed and simply enjoyed playing with the little ones and spending a nice quiet evening with family.

Friday, June 17, 2011

Oh man

So, where did those past two weeks go?

**crickets**

We put the kiddies to bed tonight right after dinner. I came down stairs and my mother said, "You know it's only 6:55 pm right?"

Whoops.

(An extra early bedtime once in a while won't hurt them, but I think Dear Husband and I were the ones in the need of a break.)

When will I stop dreaming about answering work emails? The problem with catching up on work while sleeping is that you have to do the same darn ones over again when you're awake. They just don't transmit so well.

Thank goodness for weekends:

Saturday, June 4, 2011

hangi

We were invited to a hangi today and it was a really neat experience.

If you think the Texans are adventurous with pit cooked barbeque brisket, well, they have nothing on the Maori.

A New Zealand tradition, a hangi involves digging a very large pit, lighting a fire and heating stones and then using those hot stones and steam to cook a whole lotta food underground. Pork, lamb, chicken, cabbage, potatoes, the whole bit.

After quite a few hours underground, the hangi is dug up and out comes deliciously tender and flavorful meat and vegetables.

Miss Bee's eyes were the size of saucers as she watched the men dig up her lunch. She dug in happily to her plate a short while later, though.

Today made me realize just how much I love picnics and that we need to have more of them this summer.

Thursday, June 2, 2011

it really does take a village

It's going to be really hard to move overseas again in a few years. As in, really, really hard.

Just today--

--Seeing my parents in the morning when we park in front of their house to walk to the metro. Cheeks McGoo poured water all over herself in the car, so we run inside my parents' house for a quick change. Cause my Mom has an extra outfit at the ready for just that contingency.

--Exchanging emails with my dear mother in law over my lunch break. She sends me interesting articles to read; I comment.

--My Father-in-law picking up Miss Bee for their Thursday afternoon adventure, spent with Bee's cousin and uncle. This week's activity--baking brownies (with chocolate frosting and walnuts) and then sending a plate of them home to me.

--Eating Carolina barbeque for dinner, brought up from that wonderful southern state by Miss Bee's godparents (who live next door to my parents).

--After dinner, watching my Mom push Miss Cheeks on the swing where I spent many a happy summer evening as a child.

--Coming home to find a bag of bread flour in my front door from my grandmother. (I had been complaining that my local store had stopped carrying any kind of bread flour.)

Watching my girls grow close to their relatives is one of the sweetest gifts I have ever received.

Saturday, May 28, 2011

There, but for the grace of God

My hands have finally stopped trembling enough to type.

Miss Cheeks fell down the stairs this morning. She pushed on the baby gate at the top of the stairs and it gave way. Riding the gate like a surfboard, Cheeks fell, head first, down six steps, skittering to a stop at the first landing.

When I heard the crash, I ran from the kitchen and Dear Husband ran from the other end of the playroom (he had been steps away when this happened). Cheeks screamed and screamed, but it quickly became apparent that she was crying from fear more than any injury. By the grace of God, she was fine, with the exception of a big bruise on her forehead.

By a strange coincidence, the fall took place 20 minutes before we were supposed to take Bee to the pediatrician, so we loaded both of them up in the wagon and rolled them down the street to their doctor's office (which is only two blocks away). The doctor checked Cheeks over and reassured us that she is fine.

She's napping now, but I cannot help but check on her every few minutes, in order to be reassured by her quiet breathing.

It is truly gut wrenching to think just how easily our little ones can be hurt, whether it's from a fall, or mischief in the medicine cabinet, or a car accident. Despite our best efforts, we cannot hold on to our children every minute. Accidents happen.

This is why I pray.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

tuesday bluesday

It's after 9 pm and I'm still in my work clothes. I'm wrung out from a long day at work and two little girls who did not go quietly to bed tonight.

There are gardening gloves on the floor of my living room. I'm not quite sure why, but think that Cheeks deposited them there earlier in the evening. The washing machine is full of wet clothes that need to be switched to the dryer.

The gloves can stay where they are. The laundry will wait.

I have been hiding out on my little balcony, watching the very last rays of sun slip below the horizon. Swatting away the first mosquitoes of the season. Watching the cars drive down my street, their headlights ribbons of light on the pavement. Just doing nothing for a little while. A little nothing is some of the best medicine.

Thursday, May 19, 2011

Appalled. . .with two Ps

My mother experienced quite a shock when she picked up Miss Bee from daycare last Friday. As they were about to leave, Bee said, "Wait, Mimi, wait! I forgot my billy club."

"Billy club?"

And indeed it was.

Miss Bee's special project of the week was to make a police baton/night stick/people whacker. And she had learned, as part of her unit just what police officers do with those batons.

"They hit people!"

I'm all for learning about community helpers, but hand painting carefully cut and glued paper towel rolls with multiple layers of black paint to make an authentic looking billy club, well, that's just going a bit too far. What's next, paper mache handguns?

And plus, if you're a four and a half year old with a little sister who gets on your nerves periodically, what would you do with a pretend billy club? Whack your sister, of course.

I know that as my children grow up, the world will rush in the the force of an ocean wave, washing away the sandcastles and fairy lands of childhood. But for a little while yet, I will be standing in front of that wave, diverting the water as best I can with my hands and feet and buckets. These early years are supposed to be the magical ones. Billy clubs have no place in my kingdom.

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Small victory

Our washing machine has been acting up. It tried and groaned and tried and groaned but just couldn't manage to spin all the water out of the clothes in the load.

Due to a stroke of luck, we had exactly one week remaining on our one-year warranty and called a repairman without delay. We finally found one that could come on a Saturday.

Saturday morning, we shoveled the piles of dirty clothes out of the way so that the repair man could reach the washer. The repairman arrived (on time!) with a belt full of tools but refused to make any promises about whether he could fix the machine.

He had it fixed within 10 minutes. Evidently the inner workings of the washer were jammed with not one, not two, but FIVE baby socks. Whirlpool washers have got some powerful spin action.

For $3 at Target we were able to buy a mesh laundry bag that will prevent this calamity from happening again.

So let that be a word of warning to all you parents washing small socks.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

TIme capsule


I got my luggage back from Christchurch on Friday. I had tracked its progress online all week, as it passed through New Zealand's rigorous customs inspection, traveled to Hong Kong to be x-rayed, and then on to Cincinnati to pass through U.S. customs.

It finally arrived, all my personal items, painstakingly gathered from my damaged hotel in Christchurch and packed back up into my suitcase. My favorite jeans. My passport. My house keys. My laptop computer.

My laptop had to be shipped separately, due to the lithium battery inside. Tne package containing my computer was covered with so many warning labels you might have mistaken it for a shipment of dynamite.

Once I figured out how to put the battery back into the computer, I opened the screen and it popped right back on. I evidently hadn't turned the computer off the morning of February 22 and my email inbox and news articles from that day were still on the screen. Eerie.

It's all back in order now. My suitcase has been put away, dirty laundry washed and folded. Although myc experience in the Christchurch earthquake is something I will remember for the rest of my life, I think that I can finally now say that I have come home.

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

outside kids

Read Bee her bedtime stories out on our balcony tonight. You would have thought I had served her the moon on a silver plate, she was so excited. We read "Harold and the Purple Crayon," and if you don't know the story, there's Harold, he has a purple crayon, and he draws what the author narrates. Or the author narrates what he draws. It's a nice little literary paradox.

As we read "Harold" and watched the sun set on our street. We are soaking up this beautiful spring weather as much as possible before the mosquitoes crash the party.

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Wednesday

I was in a contentious and stressful meeting today when my cell phone rang. Not only did it ring, but it was LOUD and rang right in the middle of my presentation. It took me a minute to realize that the reason that no one was silencing the ringer was because it was, in fact, my phone.

A mad scramble and furious blushing ensued.

As I reached over to turn it off, I saw that my the phone number was my parents' house. Uh oh. My Mom picks up Bee after school and if she was calling in the middle of the afternoon, then something was amiss.

F. Scott Fitzgerald once said that "The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function." Today proved my own intelligence falls squarely into the second rate category. I finished the meeting, but was utterly distracted. Then I almost walked into oncoming traffic while outside trying to return my Mom's call.

Miss Bee's okay, but it turns out she is allergic to penicillin.

Monday, April 25, 2011

Reason no. 5,392 I love Spring




Everything is blooming at our house.

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Hot cross buns

I'll be making these hot cross buns tonight so we can eat them early tomorrow morning. Not only do they rise overnight in the fridge, they are ridiculously good.

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Walking the dog at dusk

The sun is staying up later and I can walk the dog before its full dark. We headed out a little before 8 pm. Passed a crazy man with two beagles who kept repeating in a high pitched voice, "Look at the big puppy! Look at the big puppy!"

He was talking about Max. Maybe his beagles were vicious and he was trying to prevent them from attacking my dog. I have no idea why he was acting that way, but it raised the hairs on the back of my neck.

I picked up my pace, but then chided myself for being so paranoid. It's not like an axe murderer would be out on the prowl with a pair of beagles. Unless it was a really good ruse.

Safely away from the potentially vicious beagles/axe murderer, I slowed down as we walked past the library. I love the library, and would stop in every night, if just to breathe that musty book smell and hear the rustle of contented readers turning pages. But since dogs aren't allowed in the library, we just walked slowly by and stared in the windows.

And then I saw it. The sunset. Tonight it was a perfect, glowing pink. There were swirling clouds the color of cotton candy. And streaks of blue for good measure.

I don't think Max noticed the sunset. But I stopped for a minute, just to soak up the last rays of departing light. I wish I could write that as we walked quietly on, the sunset led to some big spiritual revelation, or caused me to realize something very profound, but nothing like that happened. It was just beautiful.

Monday, April 18, 2011

Milkshakes and basil

I went on a date with my husband on Sunday. For us, a date happens pretty much any time we manage to convince someone else to watch the kids.

Week before last, we went on a date at the cafeteria in the building where I work. Not so romantic, but thrilling just the same to have uninterrupted adult conversation.

But on Sunday, we had a real date. My wonderful sparkly little sister is visiting from Germany, and she and my mother volunteered to play with Cheeks and Bee while dear husband and I went to the garden center.

Not the movies. Not to a fancy restaurant. We went to the garden center.

It sounds awfully boring, I know, but I can't tell you how excited I was at the prospect of browsing the aisles without worrying about a pair of little hands decapitating a prize peony.

On the way there, my husband turned to me and said, how about we grab a milkshake? Now, I can't remember the last time I even drank a milkshake, but before you could say banana split we were walking into the little burger place near our house.

I ordered vanilla with crushed oreos. Dear husband decided on a root beer float.

Back in the car, we slurped our milkshakes in companionable silence. Just being at ease together is probably one of the nicest things about being married for almost nine years.

On Saturday, I went wedding dress shopping with my little sister. We went to the same small store where I had bought my wedding dress at the tender age of 21. I proudly told the owner of the shop that I had brought her a new customer and related my warm memories of picking out a dress nearly a decade ago. She laughed, and then asked, "So, how's it going, the marriage?"

"Very well," I replied.

I reflected on this as we walked through the nursery and picked out herbs to grow on our back patio. Two kinds of basil for homemade pizza margherita. Mint for my husbands' mint juleps. Sage for roast chicken. Two strawberry plants, just because. Dear husband also bought me new clay pots and big bags of potting soil. What I know, after nine years, is that love doesn't have to be flashy. Sometimes its as simple as fresh basil and sweet as cold vanilla ice cream.

When we returned home, we found the girls happily playing in the front yard with my Mom and sister. I set to work filling the new pots. Cheeks McGoo loved digging with a child sized spade. Miss Bee took wearing her garden gloves very seriously.

Dear husband watched my gardening with great bemusement, knowing that my black thumb will no doubt inflict calamity on our purchases. I will surely forget to water one plant and accidentally another. I checked on my green charges after work today, and, surprisingly, all seemed to have recovered from being transported and transplanted. Perhaps this will be my lucky year in the garden.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Thursday

Clothes spinning in the wash;
Children sleeping in their beds;
Herbs growing in the kitchen;
Stack of books on the nightstand;
Bowl full of ice cream;
Peaceful, quiet, house.

Saturday, April 9, 2011

Thank heaven

for hand me downs. All of Miss Bee's too-small clothes are in boxes in the garage. Poor, deprived McGoo doesn't realize that pretty much her entire wardrobe was previously worn by her big sister.

Earlier this week, as I dressed McGoo in her second-hand windbreaker, Miss Bee started to whine that she wanted a new jacket too. I laughed, and explained to my very equality-minded daughter that the jacket in question had been hers.

I am starting to understand why my sister and I, still, to this day, receive similar or identical Christmas presents from our parents. (Although I would say the odds of us fighting over them at our respective ages of 30 and 27 have significantly diminished!)

My dear husband took the girls to visit their great-grandmother today (always a popular occasion because they get to eat lunch at the retirement home, which serves french friends and ice cream) and I spent a very happy hour going through 18-24 month old clothes that used to belong to Bee. Most of those clothes were bought when we lived in Latvia, from my all time favorite children's store. Let's just say that it's probably a good thing there is no D.P.A.M. store in the USA.

I always write this, but every mother will know it's true--my girls are growing up too fast.

Friday, April 8, 2011

Right rabbit

Miss Bee wears her heart on her sleeve. It's hard to be four years old.

Tonight Miss Bee's stuffed rabbit went missing. The child has an entire menagerie of stuffed animals and no particular favorites. She rotates through which ones sleep on her bed, so it makes it difficult to keep track of which animals need to be where. I need to start a spreadsheet.

S-o, I finally had Miss Bee all tucked up bed with her stuffed mouse and her big bear, when, with wide eyes and a panicked voice she says, "WHERE IS MY RABBIT?"

I called in for reinforcements and set my husband to searching under the bed. He had to dig through a vast field of dirty tissues (so that's where she puts them!) and I could tell he really wanted to say a few dirty words as he gathered those up. I had headed back to the playroom to see if Rabbit had been abandoned there when I heard him call, "Found it!"

Phew.

There was a brief moment of silence, but then the unmistakable snuffle/wail of Miss Bee. Exasperated, I stomped back into her bedroom and asked, "What's wrong?"

"THAT IS THE WRONG RABBIT" she cried.

My poor dear husband indignantly replied, "You mean there's more than one?"

Finally, after much additional searching, I located the right rabbit, as opposed to, you know, the wrong rabbit, tucked her back up in bed, closed the door and said a little prayer that there will be no more drama--at least until the morning.

Monday, April 4, 2011

Have your cake

Dear Husband ate both pieces of leftover cake this evening. With guilty eyes, he claimed that it was an accident, that he had thought that I had taken my cake for lunch today. I asked him why he thought his leftover piece was so large. He had no answer for me.

However, instead of flying into a cake deprived rage--I solved my problem. Since the cake was eaten at my parents' house for dinner last night, I called them and asked to have one of their leftover pieces. And my husband very sweetly drove over to their house to retrieve it for me.

Poor Dear Husband.

He is so nice to me all the time and I am so mean to him. Here are just a few examples:

I demand cake.
I make him clip the dog's toenails.
I have appointed him the official killer of all spiders and anything else with six legs.
I ask him to go down to the kitchen to get me a glass of water after he has gotten into bed. (Isn't that just awful?)

Yet, despite all my bad behavior, he keeps me around.

It's a good thing he knows that I love him so.

Friday, April 1, 2011

TGIF

The good: Portabella mushroom sandwiches from the Stray Cat for dinner. With curly fries. Yum.

The bad: While at work, I got a little lost trying to find the library. And then a lady kinda threw up on me in the hallway whilst I was attempting to locate the library. (She was attempting to locate the restroom, poor thing.) Thank goodness I keep a change of clothes in my office, and that she mostly threw up on the floor. Yuck.

The funny: Commuting home on the crowded metro with Cheeks McGoo today-- even though she is restrained in her stroller she still manages to get in trouble. This evening Cheeks startled a random man by reaching up and patting his bottom. All the lady commuters laughed. So she she did it again. And then again. My desperate attempts to stop her were all to no avail. The man, serious in a dark suit, was not amused.

Thursday, March 31, 2011

matryoshka


My mom bought these adorable nesting glasses for Bee for Christmas. She loves them. I love them. (And secretly use them.)

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

the things we keep

It was raining when I picked Cheeks up from daycare today. I squeezed her stroller's rain cover over the stroller frame, and, after a lot of tugging and silent cursing, finally managed to put it on properly. My daughter stared out inquisitively from behind the thick wall of plastic.

Raindrops falling all around.

I, on the other hand, had forgotten to bring an umbrella. My umbrella is still in my hotel room in Christchurch. It--along with my favorite jeans, my house keys, my laptop computer (with all the photos of Cheeks McGoo from her first year of life, shame on me for not backing those up), passport, ipod, and the rest of my luggage--it was all left behind in my hotel room after the earthquake.

Since I was in a meeting when the earthquake struck, all I had with me was a North Face tote bag that I had been using instead of a purse. (The better to tote around papers in.) Fortunately, inside my tote bag I had my wallet, blackberry, digital camera, a hair brush and some lip gloss (oh vanity!), chewing gum, and lots of notebook paper and pens (which came in very handy). After the earthquake, I felt like a little refugee with my tote bag. I carried it everywhere, not wanting to be left with nothing if there was another earthquake.

This is not a tragedy though--the things I lost are just things, mere ephemera that can be replaced. What can't be replaced are the mothers, the fathers, the children, and the friends who died in Christchurch on February 22. I am blessed and lucky to be home with my family when there are those who will never get to go home again.

And this being New Zealand we're talking about here, I'll probably even get my luggage back eventually, once the center of the city is deemed safe and the hotel staff can reenter the hotel to put things back in order. It just might be a while.

In the meantime though, I'm going to go buy a new umbrella.

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Christmas in March


My Christmas cactus is blooming in March, which only further proves that I do indeed have the "black thumb of death" when it comes to houseplants.

Upstairs, my angel wing begonia is dropping its leaves sadly. I can't seem to get the balance of water and sunlight right and I fear it has reached the end of its life.

I long to plant tomatoes this summer but don't know if I can deal with the disappointment of another "two tomato" harvest this year. Yep. Last year's tomato plant yielded exactly two tomatoes and then it died. (In comparison, the eggplants did great, I think they produced a record-breaking four.) Clearly, my future as a gardener is very bleak.

But the cactus is very pretty.

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Friday Vacation

I am very good at cleaning the house, organizing my daughters' toys, and matching socks. Taking care of myself, not so much.

Earlier this week, I received an email from a colleague with a gentle admonishment to take some time off. I didn't reply.

But then I finally slowed down for long enough this morning to realize that he was right; I very much need a break. This past month has been more difficult than I care to admit.

I'm not sick, none of my daughters need to go to the doctor, there are no repairmen (that I know of) coming to my house, no trees have fallen into our backyard.

I just need a day to do nothing.

So tomorrow, nothing is on the agenda.

Tomorrow is my day to play dolls with Miss Bee and read board books with Cheeks McGoo. To walk to the library. To make peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for lunch and bake cookies for teatime.

There is no reason to stay home tomorrow other than the fact that I think it would be a good thing for me right now. But maybe that's the best reason of all.

(Thank you A.P.)

Homebody

Less than one year until we go on our 5 night Disney cruise.

The best thing about booking a cruise 18 months in advance? The months of delicious anticipation. The bad thing about booking a cruise 18 months in advance? Well, there are many things.

As a result of our less than one year away journey to decadent eating, and the fact that my dear sister is getting married toward the end this year (in Germany) we don't have any elaborate vacation plans for this summer. We need to save our pennies.

I keep thinking that we need to find a way to take some short trips, as our weekends are currently regimented to the point of ridiculousness and involve cleaning, grocery shopping, church, and hanging out with the family. If we're really feeling wild, we'll watch a movie on iTunes and make popcorn.

The problem is, we have become creatures of habit. Maybe I should be more concerned that the children never travel further than a 5 mile radius from home, but you know, I'm really not.

It's all almost too easy in the United States. In Romania, grocery shopping for the week meant going to the grocery store, the vegetable market, the other vegetable market near our apartment to get the things that the first market didn't have, and then a trip to the other grocery store to get the things we forgot. It was a foraging adventure that took at least a couple hours every Saturday. (If we had learned to cook Romanian cuisine, our lives would have been much simpler.) Whereas here, I can do all my shopping in less than an hour.

In Romania, going outside to play meant schlepping to the park (which was beautiful, and nearby) but here in the United States, it means stepping out the door. I arrived home from grocery shopping this afternoon to find Cheeks and Bee busily playing cars with the little boy next door. My husband and the neighbors were standing around chatting. To anyone else passing by, this little scene would have seemed perfectly ordinary. But to me, seeing my family, in our own place, living in the United States after so many years away--it's the embodiment of a dream.

You know, I think I will be happy to not travel for a while.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Baby commuter

Riding the Metro with Miss Cheeks is never dull. People hold their belongings tightly when they see her coming, her legend as a kleptomaniac toddler has spread up and down the Orange line. What can I do? The child loves purses. Other people's purses.

Cheeks was relatively mellow this afternoon, which meant she only rejected two board books, and didn't scream. "Touch and Feel Meal Time" is usually a favorite story, but it went flying.

Finally, after disagreeing with the entire contents of my purse, Cheeks settled on my blackberry. She made several important phone calls, which was adorable. She would made a very serious expression and press the phone up against her fat cheek. I guess that's how I look when I talk on the phone. I think she might have called Alaska.

I need to go read the chapter in the parenting book about how not to raise a baby tyrant.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

The working moms and dads will know what I mean

Here's to those of us who have t0 leave for work before the sun is up in the sky and don't get home until it is well and fully set.

Here's to faking it with our kids when the stresses of work follow us home. As in, "What's that? Mommy's really happy! She's not looking at her blackberry!"

Here's to tall laundry piles and aggressive dust bunnies.

Here's to the pediatrician who actually offers 7 pm appointments.

Here's to feeling guilty for not being home with the kids when they are little.

So, just for tonight, I'm throwing in the towel.

I'm off to wallow in self pity.

I will count my blessings in the morning.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Out like a lamb

Spring has finally started to make itself known. There are purple crocuses in my backyard. The tulip trees have deep pink buds. On Friday, it was finally warm enough to go walking without a jacket. The robins have returned. Yesterday, I ventured into our postage stamp of a backyard and planted a flat of flowers.

This afternoon, Cheeks McGoo and Bee played in our driveway with the boy next door. I drew chalk highways and train stations and airports and brought out a basket of cars and trains. They provided the soundtrack.

If only the weekend could last all week long.

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Yesterday

It had been a bad morning. During breakfast, Cheeks McGoo smeared yogurt in my hair.
(Thanks, baby!)

Then, Miss Bee had a fit about her tights. Or as she termed them: "TIIIIIIGGGGGHHHHTS!!!!!" (The problem: she felt that they were too tight. Which I believe is an oxymoron of sorts.)

It was a very long, but surprisingly good day.

I got home just after 9:45 pm and took the dog for a quick walk in the rain. Poor Max. He was very ready to go out and do his thing, but thankfully just as ready to run back in.
(The fact that I have a Labrador retriever who is slightly afraid of water is a whole other issue.)

I spent a few minutes answering emails on my blackberry and then went to kiss my sleeping daughters goodnight.

Miss Bee was curled up under a mountain of covers, her favorite sock monkey perched on her pillow, standing watch against "things that might come out from under the bed." During the day Miss Bee is constantly in motion. At night, she is as still as one of Botticelli's angels. Cheeks McGoo, on the other hand, sleeps wildly, sprawled on her stomach, hair mussed in a halo around her head. I sang them lullabies they did not hear, so deep was their sleep. I whispered all the things a mama says, then went to bed myself.

My love for them is profound.

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Neither here nor there

Driving to the grocery store this morning, Miss Bee in the backseat, feeling just about as jittery as the rain beating on my windshield.

Bee must have sensed my quiet mood and tenderly called out from the backseat, "Mommy, I love you like the tracks of a train."

Train tracks, you know, go on and on, for as far as the eye can see.

I found myself blinking back tears.

Later, driving home with a trunk full of groceries, a car passed me with a bumper sticker that said, "The best things in life aren't things."

I felt as though the universe had seized me by the scruff of the neck and given me a good shake.

I can just imagine someone up in heaven must have said said, "All right angels, so, this particular human is rather slow so we're going to have to spell it out for her:

You're home, you're safe, you're with your family. Let them love you and it's going to get better."

Yes.

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Auckland in the Morning

There is something special about a sunny day in Auckland. The sky is big. The light is brilliant. It's as if the entire city puffs out its chest and preens a bit.

I contemplated going up to the top of the sky tower, but decided that I had risked enough calamity already. A colleague told me that you can even bungee jump off the thing if you want. Now that's insanity, if you ask me.


Even going out on the harbor seemed a bit risky. I was content to keep my feet on solid ground.


However, if I were ever to go sailing in Auckland harbor, this is the boat I would commandeer:


Monday, February 28, 2011

from the mouths of third graders

I actually made it to my Sunday school class yesterday. I told the third graders that they had to be extra nice to me because I was very tired from traveling home from New Zealand and that I had been in an earthquake.

"An earthquake!" was their initial response, but then they were more interested in sharing their own stories of calamity:

"You know, a tree fell down in my neighbor's yard and there is police tape everywhere."

"The McDonalds near my cousin's house caught on fire!"

I found it quite refreshing.

They could tell that I was not well-prepared for class, and peppered me with questions like a bunch of hungry sharks circling a lifeboat:

"If Jesus rose from the dead, was he then, like, a zombie?"

"If Jesus had Joseph as his father on earth and God as his father in heaven, then who was his other mother?"

"If God made the world, then who made God?"

"Joseph was a carpenter? We have a carpenter who comes to our house and when he bends over, you can see his . . ."

(I ended that story right quick.)

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Blessed and lucky

By lunchtime on Thursday, I was on a flight headed out of Christchurch. I'm not embarrassed to say that I clutched my boarding pass like a winning lottery ticket. I was tired, both physically and emotionally.

Once on board the aircraft, I tapped my foot impatiently, willing the other passengers to just hurry up already. A speedy departure, however, was not in order.

Just as the plane began to taxi to the runway, there arose a sudden commotion two rows in front of me. An elderly lady had slumped over in her seat and stopped breathing. The cabin crew sprang into action, with an oxygen bottle and encouraging words, "Keep breathing, nice big breaths, there's a good girl."

I really thought I was going to completely lose it at that point.

The plane rolled back to the gate and the paramedics took the poor woman away in a stretcher. I'll never know whether she was simply overcome by the events of the previous days or if something more serious had taken place. I pray she is recovering in a hospital in Christchurch.

The flight to Auckland was almost an hour long but it seemed like years. I was a bit wobbly when I disembarked, but ever so happy to meet up with my colleagues there. I was spoiled utterly and completely--whisked away to fill out the paperwork for a new passport--shepherded to buy new clothes and toiletries--and then after a blissful shower, installed on a sunny couch where I proceeded to take a three hour nap.

I may have been their quietest house guest ever. I woke up around 8 pm, chatted with my hosts and ate dinner, and was back upstairs and in bed before 9 pm.

The next day was easy. I took a long walk through downtown Auckland and felt some of my bottled up tension subside.

The flight back to the U.S. was brutally long, but the prospect of seeing my family made it bearable. Thirty minutes before landing in Washington, D.C., however, the pilot came in over the intercom and announced that there were 60 mph headwinds on the ground and that the flight attendants had to take their seats immediately.

The strong gusts of wind rocked the plane. We began our descent, only to suddenly head back up into the air. We circled the airport. Once. Twice. I was certain that were were going to divert to Baltimore or Philadelphia. The pilot finally made up his mind to go for the landing. The plane rocked from side to side. One wing tilted up, then the other wing. We landed in the same way a leaf falls from a tree to the ground.

I have seen far too many History Channel programs and knew that a sudden, ill-timed gust of wind has the potential to make an airplane crash. And after making it safely out of Christchurch, I really didn't want to die.

I prayed. I think a lot of people on the airplane played. We landed safely.

Since my return home I have been glorying in the mundane: braiding my daughter's hair, scrubbing the toothpaste stains off of the sink, singing in church, spending time with my family.

While I know my memories of the past week will fade, I hope I can hold on to this new-found feeling of gratitude. I am just so happy to be home.

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Christchurch Earthquake

Preface: I am enormously lucky to have survived the earthquake in New Zealand. There are many people who did not. Scores of mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, and friends are mourning loved ones who they will never see again. Countless homes have been destroyed. Please keep the people of New Zealand in your prayers.

Disclaimer: The opinions expressed here are personal and not professional in nature and are not representative of the opinions or policy of the United States government.

Up until the point the earthquake struck, the day had been going to plan.

On February 22, the U.S.-NZ Partnership Forum, was taking place at AMI stadium in Christchurch, NZ. Gathered for the occasion were numerous foreign affairs and government luminaries, including Assistant Secretary of State Kurt Campbell, Former Deputy Secretary of State Richard Armitage and retired senator Evan Bayh. An eight member congressional delegation had departed earlier that morning.

At 12:51 pm I was taking notes in a meeting with representatives from the United States, New Zealand, and Australia and feeling quite pleased with myself because the agenda that I painstakingly hammered out back in Washington was proceeding according to plan.

The meeting was located in one of the stadium's luxury boxes, the room overlooking a flawless green rugby pitch, separated from the stands outside by a floor to ceiling wall of glass.

Suddenly, and without warning, the earthquake struck. The noise was like a freight train. The world seemed to fragment into tiny pieces. I stood up from my chair, took a step backward, fell to the floor, curled into a ball, unable to take shelter under a table that was mere feet away.

Glass was breaking; water was spilling; plaster and dust fell from the ceiling, coating the room in a fine spray of white dust. There was dust in my mouth.

As the world shook, I lay very still. It was as if a pure silence enveloped me completely and I went dead quiet inside. I can only describe the feeling as one of grace.

Finally, after what seemed to be an eternity, the violence stopped. We staggered to our feet and surveyed, with disbelief, a room that looked as though it had been through a tumble dryer.

Someone, I believe it a was a member of the stadium staff, urged our group to evacuate out onto the rugby pitch. The once level playing field was wrinkled with bubbles of liquefaction. Water seeped out of the ground, a thick gray silt. Mini geysers spouted. Car sirens blared incessantly.

Then the aftershocks began. The stadium lights, high overhead, shuddered ominously. We evacuated the stadium and onto a grassy area immediately outside. Our group milled about in shock and disbelief, texting and calling family members that had no idea that an earthquake had even taken place. We called the State Department operations center. They opened a crisis log.

It was cold, and I didn't have a jacket. A colleague gave me his. Time slowed down to the space between aftershocks.

After a short while the Embassy's security officer, showed up with his car and a satellite phone. Conferring with his colleagues at the Embassy in Wellington, he calmly planned the evacuation of the delegation, mapping out the safest route to the airport, which fortunately also contained the offices of the U.S. Antarctic Program--an ideal shelter.

Our small group moved to the other side of the stadium to join the rest of the partnership forum delegates, which included a group of 20 American Fulbright students and Kiwi college students.

The New Zealand Visits and Ceremonials office performed heroically, locating food, water, blankets and the bus for our delegation. Miraculously, the bus driver had not abandoned his post and immediately began the slow and hazardous drive to rescue the delegation.

Many in the group were shaken and bruised, but most everyone remained calm. The full implications of what had happened had not sunk in. A colleague would tell me later that a taxi driver outside the stadium during the earthquake had watched in horror as the huge structure bulged outward and then snapped back. Another few seconds of shaking and it seems likely that the facade would have crumbled and I would most likely not be writing this story.

I didn't know how to feel--it was mostly disbelief that a city already rocked by a 7.1 magnitude earthquake in 2010 would have to suffer nature's wrath again.

I stuck close to my Embassy colleagues, hungry for information about what would happen next. Finally the delegation's bus came wobbling down the road, a big boxy promise of deliverance.

At that point, it was as if a switch flipped inside of me, and I realized that I had a choice to make. I could either remain victim to the continuing aftershocks and completely freak out, or else I could choose to work and try to help my embassy colleagues. Since the prospect of having a complete meltdown seemed like it would be quite embarrassing, I decided to work.

We made lists of the present members of the delegation and tried to figure out where the missing might be. Once everyone had boarded the bus, we began the slow journey to the airport. Once there, the New Zealand government again performed heroically, arranging to have the entire delegation evacuated to Wellington. This was exactly the right thing for the Kiwis to do, as it freed up the government to concentrate on crisis response.

Embassy and State Department employees, however, are charged with assisting American citizens abroad. Those of of us with consular and crisis management training knew that we had a responsibility to any remaining Americans in Christchurch. We knew how to help; this was our job. Despite knowing this, and wanting to stay, as the final members of the delegation evacuated late that evening, and violent aftershocks continued, I questioned the decision I had made. As a final indignity, it began to rain.

A small group of us remained: the consul, the embassy's media specialist, a human resources specialist, the embassy's economic officer, the agricultural attache, the security officer and me. We were joined by a New Zealand police liaison officer.

Half of the group drove out in the dark to visit the shelters and crisis centers in the city, the other half of us set off to find a place to sleep in the Antarctic Program offices. By a stroke of good luck, the program had just brought several boxes of sleeping bags up from the ice to be laundered. The fact that they hadn't been washed yet was a small price to pay for comfort.

As we set up the sleeping bags and made plans for the morning, my colleagues returned from their drive into the city, and brought the final remaining member of the delegation, Tim Manning, who also happens to be the deputy administrator for FEMA. Tim, as you might imagine for someone in his position, has extensive crisis management experience. When the earthquake struck, Tim sprang into action, heading into the center of the city with other first responders. To say we were glad to have him on our team would be a severe understatement; Tim truly was heaven-sent.

With all the members of our group accounted for, we bedded down for the night, curled up under desks or against load bearing walls in case the unthinkable happened. I was exhausted, but continually woken by scores of aftershocks throughout the night. It was like sleeping next to a blender, where every few minutes someone would push the power button. I finally gave up sleeping around four am, and set to answering the avalanche of emails that had come in overnight. Everyone on the team had been assigned a job and mine was to provide updates to the embassy and Washington.

By six am, everyone had dragged themselves awake. We were a sight; unwashed, weary, and wearing dirty clothes. Once we had made ourselves reasonably presentable, we set down to prepare a plan of action of the day. Our team deployed to the shelters, gave information to American Citizens who were there, visited the hospitals, helped facilitate Americans onto the "visitor facilitation flights" that were moving tourists out of harms way, assisted with the arrival of a search and rescue team from California, and did our best to track down some of the Americans who had been reported as missing. When we regrouped that evening, we shared chicken curry, our stories, and relief that the aftershocks had diminished.

I want to emphasize that really, in the scope of this tragedy, our team played an infinitesimally small role.

As the extent of the damage and death toll became apparent, our hearts broke for the good people of Christchurch and indeed all of New Zealand.

Despite the horror of what happened, the Kiwis were magnificent. The strength and decency of everyone I encountered after the quake is something I will remember for the rest of my life.

Local business sent their delivery trucks to local shelters and gave all they had to those in need. The military and police stood double shifts in order to help rescue the trapped and restore order. School children wearing yellow plastic "civil defense" smocks passed out cups of water. The New Zealand police liaison officer attached to our team was no exception--he navigated us through the city, provided advice, and cared for us as if we were members of his own family.

In Christchurch's darkest hour, kindness triumphed over adversity. I feel privileged to have witnessed the very best of humanity.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

floured up

I am like a mad scientist in my kitchen tonight: refreshing sourdough starters both plain and rye; mixing up the levain for sourdough pain au chocolat (because I am insanely overambitious about what I'll be able to accomplish tomorrow); soaking seeds for the German rye I hope to make.

This afternoon, while the rest of the family was napping, I went to the library, ostensibly to return a stack of Bee's books, but spent an hour holed in in section 640.8, leafing through cookbooks.

After cleaning up the kitchen and putting away my recently arrived King Arthur Flour order I come upstairs and spend the next thirty minutes looking at pictures of cupcakes on Martha Stewart Living website.

The baking bug--I got it bad. But somehow, where my day job entails striving for a series of mini accomplishments inside a much larger organization, baking bread just seems so much more rewarding. Mix it up, hope it rises without any drama, pop it in the oven, and mission accomplished.

Plus, unlike emails, you can eat it.

Friday, February 11, 2011

evening prayer

I had a laugh this afternoon when my daughter scrunched up her eyes and recoiled at the bright sunshine. She was appalled at its audacious intensity. She had forgotten the sun.

Her reaction reminded me of the young Latvian child sitting behind me on a flight from Riga once. The winters in the Baltic are cold and very, very, very, dark. It snows nearly every day in the winter, and as a result, the sky is usually clouded over. (In fact, when I lived in Latvia we were issued "happy lamps," bright fluorescent bulbs meant to simulate sunlight and chase away the winter doldrums.)

The young child gazed out the window as the plane ascended. After several minutes, the plane broke through the cloud cover and flew into the always sunny upper atmosphere. With a voice of pure joy the child turned to her mother and cried, "Saulite!" "The little sun!" She too had forgotten the sun.

There are so many dark places in the world: Dark winters in the Baltics. Dark nights of the soul. The dark hours after a thwarted revolution. Dark hospital rooms.

There are places that remain dark until they are finally pierced by the light of the sun. By the warmth of spring and renewal. By the light of hope. By the eternal glory of everlasting life.

The sunshine today brought a smile to my face and the hope that the weather tomorrow will be fine; that the sick will be well; that the light of grace will shine on, shine on us all.

Amen.

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Food. Family.

It's my Dad's birthday today, and not only did I really enjoy having dinner over at my parents' house, but my husband had to eat pot roast.

Poor Dear Husband. For the first ten years of our relationship, he claimed that he hated the very thought of the meal--all those mushy vegetables and stringy beef.

I'm pot roast agnostic, and pretty much happy to eat anything that I don't have to cook in my kitchen.

On the other hand, Dad looooves pot roast, and almost always requests it for his birthday dinner. Plus, he just loves to give my husband a hard time.

My mother makes pot roast in the slow cooker, and covers the meat with a jar of horseradish sauce. Horseradish sounds like a less than ideal condiment, but when you cook it for a period of several hours, the flavor mellows out and the beef becomes fork tender. It's delicious.

And you know, I think I saw my husband sneaking seconds onto his plate.

The best part of the evening, however, was watching Nora eat her own piece of chocolate cake. By the time she was finished, she had crumbs in her nose, hair, and in every crease of her neck. She brandished her spoon overhead and laughed. She clearly has her mamma's sweet tooth.

It's nights like tonight that I really miss when we are overseas--time to just be an extended family, to tease each other, sneak extra pieces of cake, and just revel in sharing our daily lives together.

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Smells even better than it looks . . .


I love bread, especially when I make it myself and the smell of it baking fills my entire house.

Monday, January 31, 2011

Lost and Found

When I travel I like to buy souvenirs that I will use on a regular basis. I like things that remind me of the places I have been, yet have a function.

As a result of my peripatetic life, I have a stack of thick wool blankets from Guatemala, hand carved wooden spoons from Latvia, and table linens from Romania. I also have a pair of prized woolen mittens from Estonia.

The Estonians, they know cold. They also know their sheep and how to spin a thick, soft wool unlike any I have ever found anywhere else in the world. On a trip to Tallinn way back in the winter of 2005, I bought a pair of double lined wool gray mittens at an outdoor market . They sustained me through -30 Fahrenheit weather in Riga and weeks of snow in Bucharest.

Last Friday I emerged from the metro and my regular "it's Friday and I really need something to get me going" trip to Starbucks. (This rationale actually works quite well for every day of the week.) I reached into my purse to put on my mittens and only found one.

You know that child's poem about the three little kittens? Well, I spent the rest of the weekend meowing and searching for my lost mitten. It was ridiculous really, a small unimportant thing in the grand scale of things. But since I have had children I feel like I have lost entire continents without knowing. And that really irks me.

And thinking back to that now long ago trip to Estonia, I remembered driving back from Tallinn with my husband, in the no-man's-land on the border between Estonia and Latvia. It was there, on a long gray road tended by surly border guards that I came to the decision that I was ready to become a mother. Why there, I don't know. Maybe the car trip was just too uneventful with just two adults. But after that trip we decided to have a baby and I had Miss Bee and the mittens were somehow inextricably wrapped up in all that.

But then I found the missing mitten today, in the restroom at work. Miraculously, or maybe not so miraculously, the cleaning crew did not throw it away over the weekend, and some helpful person placed it right on the mirror where I would find it. And I am embarrassed to admit that I rejoiced.

It is the little things, you know? A lost mitten found; a handmade card from my daughter; a dinner alone with my husband . . . There are just so many small joys in life that are too easily overlooked.

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Weekend Escape


This is where I spent yesterday afternoon:


As a Christmas gift, my in-laws got us a night away at a bed and breakfast in Maryland called Antrim 1844.

It has been two years since we have gone away by ourselves. The last time was to the ice hotel where there was no roaring fire to warm my toes, only the ominous threat of hypothermia.

This was much, much, better.

Friday, January 28, 2011

Two heartbeats


Cheeks McGoo is growing up and I can hardly stand it. My little precious baby, the daughter who at this time last year was cleaved to my body at least 15 hours a day, that little baby is now driving a car. And it's a red one. And she will periodically attempt to stand on top of it, just to show me that she can.

Thank goodness the car in question is only a small ride on toy as opposed to our family station wagon. If her legs were long enough, I'm certain that she would commandeer that one as well.

McGoo went from crawling and taking just a few tentative steps to reeling around the living room like a wild drunken sailor in the space of a week. Turn your back from 15 seconds, and she will try her best to climb the stairs. If I sit her down in the middle of my bed, she races to the edge, peers over, and . . . laughs.

I don't know what to make of her daring behavior. Miss Bee was a cautious toddler, and I hovered over her in the way that most first time parents do, waiting to steady any potential wobble.

I am not a daring person. I think I have done exactly one daring thing in my life--cliff jumping at Lake Atitlan in Guatemala. I wanted to impress my husband, so after he had taken the plunge, and a number of our other acquaintances had done so as well, I scrambled up the rough-hewn trail at the edge of the cliff.

Climbing barefoot over the sharp rocks and spiny weeds was a struggle. At the precipice, at the literal edge of sheer rock and nothingness, I looked down and saw the water sparkling almost 30 feet below. I made the decision then and there that I wasn't going to jump, and that I would try to go back down the way I had come.

But then, I looked down at my legs, and realized they were covered, just covered, in a swarm mosquitos and other biting insects. So I stepped out. I remembered to take a big step forward, away from the edge, as opposed to merely jumping into the air. (Jumping didn't get you enough distance away from the rocks.)

It was two heartbeats from the cliff to the water.

I closed my eyes as I fell. In doing so, I made a crucial mistake. When I closed my eyes, I tipped my head back and my whole body landed in the water as if I were sitting in an office chair. Feet, thighs and bottom. (I still flinch when I think the sound I made entering the water.) My dear husband swum over to rescue me; I was in complete shock.

The next day, the price of my daring would be revealed, in dark purple bruises from my heels to my back. Even the spaces between my fingers were not spared. I watched in fascination over the course of a week and a half as the bruises slowly faded from purple, to green, to yellow.

Someday McGoo and Bee will take their own big leaps, but hopefully not from a mosquito infested cliff-side in Guatemala. I am savoring these early years before independence.

My daughters, they fill the space between my heartbeats. I don't know how I can ever let them go.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Morning commute

Riding the escalator up to the metro platform this morning, I found myself trapped behind two over-large business men in suits. They were talking loudly and not paying attention to the fact that they had completely blocked the stair. As we reached the top, the train was on the platform, doors closing. The first man said, "Hey that's our train!"

(Yeah genius, it sure was.)

The other man laughed for far longer than was necessary.

I'm glad they thought it was funny. I didn't. Spent the next short eternity stamping my feet and blowing my breath, shivering on the frozen platform.

I was actually glad to get to work this morning.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Thundersnow

Boy did we ever have a snowstorm this afternoon, emphasis on the storm, to include the very rare combination of swirling white flakes plus thunder and lightening. That's kinda like the Easter bunny showing up on Christmas eve, if you ask me.

The good thing about thundersnow is that my office closed two hours early and I enjoyed a long evening with my girls and dear husband.

Miss Bee was beside herself with excitement at the snow and the prospect of a snow day tomorrow.

Dear husband made her hot chocolate for dessert and threw in a giant handful of mini marshmallows which caused no end of excitement. Every time she ate a marshmallow she counted how many remained. It was a good exercise in subtraction.

The wintry weather continues outside and our lights are flickering. I am off to say a little prayer that our power stays on.